I feel like I have so much to offer life, I want to help people and take chances and inspire, and you do it all so well. But tbh I'm not very pretty, boys haven't ever been interested in me, and my self confidence has taken a hit, it stops me from being the best I can in all areas of my life. Maybe you can provide guidance? Thanks x
You listen to me. No one of importance gives a damn about how you look or what you own. You have brains, it’s obvious. Everyone’s good looks will fade away, and people put stock in their face lose their self value over time. They get depressed when they get wrinkles, or their tits are too saggy to get a free drink at the bar, or their teeth fall out and their fakeness catches up with them. Every damn day we watch once attractive celebrities face the great equalizer: age. And 9/10 times they fight it because they are told to, the worst thing they can be is “ugly”. Then we as a society poke fun at their botox distorted faces, their plastic surgery twisted and scarred bodies, their over-processed and thinning hair. It’s more than sad how much society tells you to fight looking ugly, it’s disgusting. We end up embarrassed, feeling worthless and useless when here is the freakin kicker: Everyone that gets old dies physically ugly.
Iggy Pop, Donatella Versace, Janet Reno, Helen Clarke, Anthony Davis, Bronte, Bill Murray, Mark Twain, Stephen Hawking, Elena Kagan… the list of successful people with scars, that are ugly or odd looking, or even physically disabled, people started out poor, or abused, could go on indefinitely. No one gives a damn how they look or where they are from. They are just awesome for the sake of being awesome. Scholars, writers, scientists, actors, singers, athletes, physicists, politicians.
To steal some ideas from others, remember: You are not your car. You are not your apartment. You are not what you own. You are not even your face. Looks are a depreciating asset. You don’t invest money in depreciating assets. Don’t invest your time and energy, they are precious. You are amazing. You have survived your entire life up until now. Abuse, death, loss, pain. You kicked its ass. You’ve set goals and you met them, already you are ahead of the game.
You can make it. Don’t ever let someone else make you feel like nothing, and whatever you do, do not mourn for someone that made you feel like shit. Because you are not shit. You are the best thing that has ever happened. You are radical. You are awesome. You take that big, unique brain and you rise above. You have been given much more than what 80% of the world has to go on, use it. You aren’t physically disabled, you have smarts, and you are capable, you are a survivor. Talk to a counselor. Listen to good music. Go for a run. Smile. Force yourself to meditate. These things are free and will help break you out of this funk. Take a breath and march on. You got this x